Succeeding in spite of imposter syndrome
Imposter syndrome is a fear charged thought pattern that we all deal with in some regard. It's the constant second guessing of your ability to get things done. Searching externally for validation that your voice matters and what you are saying makes sense. Casually dismissing the proof of your capabilities, which have landed you right where you are today. Some are dealing with full blown imposter syndrome, while others are facing burnout or the pressure of elevation. As you grow and thrive in your career, you will notice a pattern of increased pressure just before you achieve the next big thing. It's important to pay attention to your specific circumstances, in your pursuit to identify whether or not your challenges are rooted in imposter syndrome.
No surprise that imposter syndrome impacts women more often than men. Black women and women of color are at a heightened risk of experiencing and living with imposter syndrome. It makes sense that these particular groups of women are often succeeding in spite of doubting their own brilliance. Women are very often achieving milestones as the first in their family. Being first carries the weight of uncertainty in the absence of an example of achievement. Charting the path leaves a huge void in the picture of success. It's a complicated chore to create something amazing while standing in the center of it. The perspective is so narrow that it's easy to lose sight of the big picture.
Combating or avoiding imposter syndrome altogether, starts with self confidence. I frequently advise people to set a recurring reminder on their calendar to reflect on what they have accomplished. Doing this twice per month reduces the chance that you will forget the huge presentation that you delivered or the 2 year project that finally came to a close. Keeping track of your success is a simple and effective way to boost your confidence, while also keeping you prepared to share those accomplishments during your next performance review or interview. Increasing your self confidence outside of your career could mean improving your physical health through strength training or yoga. Taking care of yourself is the foundation of being confident.
Challenge yourself to lean into the opportunities that seem impossible, because success fuels success. With each win you will not only increase your self confidence, but you will reaffirm your right to succeed and the abilities you have to offer. Success is fuel for the weary, as the weary are often the most successful. It's normal to be tired. The key is knowing how to manage your time and energy so that you don't wait until you are exhausted before taking better care of yourself. It's possible to be so out of tune with your body that you may need to start with creating a list to help you prioritize self care. Write down all the activities (naps count) that bring you joy. Engage in something from your list when you know you need a mental or physical break from your journey. Success is only useful if you arrive whole enough to actually revel in it.
Comparison is the thief of joy. It's important to take inventory of your thoughts and what you are processing as obstacles. We are human and therefore susceptible to comparing our journey with others. There's no value in comparing your challenges or success to someone else's. You don't ever know someones fully story or what it takes for them to present the picture you are seeing. You also don't benefit from achieving their level of success, because the plan for you is unique and unlike what they are sharing. Compare who you are today to who you were a year ago. What growth are you able to see? Where are you heading next? What do you love most about who you are right now? Focusing on your path makes the journey so much more enjoyable.
It may be imposter syndrome, it may also be the beginning of your next level. Either way, prepare yourself for success by prioritizing your self confidence and overall self care.
*Written in the big chair with very big hair.